Acts1:15–17, 23–26
John 15:9–17
There are a number of definitions of Church. Some of the more common ones are the Body of Christ, the People of God and the Christian community. You may have your own favorite definition or image that tries to capture who we are. But who would think right away that the Church is the friends of Jesus? And yet that how Jesus understands the group of disciples at the table with him. His relationship with them is a relationship that falls into the human category of friends. The customary relationship between a higher and a lower was master and servant or slave. But Jesus will not allow that structure from society to enter into the room. Instead, he speaks of his disciples as friends.
There are at least three signs of the friendship that Jesus extends to his disciples. One is that there are no secrets. How can this be? It is simply because Jesus’ experience of friendship is based on the relationship he has with the Father. Jesus tells us over and over again that he does not speak on his own, he speaks what the Father speaks. Jesus holds nothing back from us, his friends, either. He has shared everything with us. This ‘no secrets’ implies a certain knowledge and intimacy. If we are the friends of Jesus, it is not a casual relationship. It is grounded in openness, in listening and in passing on what we have come to hear him say in our day. It is not ourselves we talk about but always what he is saying.
At the heart of being friends with Jesus is that he lays down his life for his friends. This is more than a euphemism for his dying or the cross. It is the heart, the mission of Jesus. It is the depths of love and being loved. If the expression laying down his life for his friends is a euphemism for anything, it is love. It is the epitome of covenantal fidelity. Jesus surrounds his words today with the commandment to love one another. Put this in other words and it is the command to lay down your lives for one another. For that is what the love commandment entails.
We become a church, a community, to the extent that we accept Jesus as loving us. We might think we chose to love. Actually, when you think about it, human beings chose very little. But we bring our being loved to the situations that are not of our making. Our faith is based on responding to the experience of being loved. Jesus can call us his friends because we have accepted that he loves us. And in accepting that, we are accepting that his Father loves us. Jesus tells us his friends we did not choose him, he chose us. We are the object of his love. How can Jesus love us? Because, as he says, he knows he has been loved since before the foundation of the world. In other words, he has always been loved.
Jesus choosing us, Jesus loving us, is not because of what we do or say. It is really all gift. Our recognition that it is gift, that God in Jesus has set his face on us is that we take being loved and turn it into loving one another. Knowing and believing we are loved transforms us into people, a community, that lays down our lives for one another. And that is the third dimension of being chosen as the friends of Jesus. Our lives bear fruit, as Jesus, says in service. This service is our sacrificial love, this loving for love’s sake.
The Apostle Matthias we remember today is probably seen simply as a replacement to complete the number 12. But the story of the way he is chosen and Jesus speaking of our being chosen offers another perspective. It is clear in the prayer of the community that as much as they might cast lots, it is God who is choosing. The name Matthias means Gift of God, Gift of the Lord. Our being loved is above all a gift. It is in acknowledging the gift that we begin to become community, friends of Jesus, and bear fruit in a world that struggles in believing it is loved.
~Prior, Fr. Joel